....it has a lasting healing effect...it doesn't fail.

  Mr. Martins stormed out of his house angrily, infuriated by the wife's action. Strolling out without actually knowing where he can go to deflate his anger. He found himself at the nearby recreation center, he was lucky to find himself a seat at the extreme corner where he sat quietly and observed activities. To his amazement, families were together in joyous mood, children played with their parents and couples played together smiling to one another with their kids.

  He said to himself," I wish I and my wife and my child were one of these couples. How can I get here? He asked. Instead of peace and joy, there has been ceaseless contentions, arguments, insults,disagreements,etc. When shall I ever get along with my wife? Today is 25th of December, I must not continue like this. Next year must not meet me and my home in this condition.I must do something very fast." He immediately left for his house.

  Meanwhile, the wife has prepared herself with her jeans trousers well kitted in readiness for any eventuality. She sat waiting for the worst. In her words" if this marriage will crash, let it crash I dont care." MARTINS walked in and stood before her for some seconds, she looked at him from head to toe, hissed and threw her face the other way.

  Martins went on his knees, grabbed her two hands and said "Honey please forgive me for all the pains I've caused you in this house. From henceforth I will love and cherish you and we shall build this home together." She looked into his eyes and saw a different Martins. She concluded in her heart, "this is the man I've been desiring to have as a husband", she fell on his neck and tears began to flow freely down her cheeck. She repeatedly said "darling, I' am sorry." It took Martins half an hour to consoled the wife.

  The aftermath of this encounter was an example of a blissful home. Martins marriage was the envy of the community. Many in the community do visit Martins and the wife to ask them about the secrets of their peaceful home. He also speaks in churches on marital success. Not only that, Martins and the wife became conferences' speaker on marriage issues. "My secrete is traced to OUR RESOLVE to keep the Divine precepts on marriage as captured in the holy book. EPHESIANS 5: 25-33". Those were his words as he concluded his speech at one of the conferences.  

You can have a blissful home.

SINCERE FORGIVENESS IS THE KEY!

It is possible.
Your marriage will succeed.

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A ONCE BLISSFUL MARRIAGE CANNOT SURVIVE THE INVASION OF THESE THREE FOXES

FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO SURVIVE, YOU MUST URGENTLY DEAL WITH THESE THREE FOXES:

  Marriage was meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured. The coming together of a man and his wife whose combined efforts were supposed to be for progress,exponential growth,prosperity,fruitfulness,success,unprecedented upliftment,love unlimited,etc. But when foxes are allowed to fester,it's essense, purpose and supposed accomplishments becomes illusive.

THESE ARE THE FOXES:

*BITTERNESS,
*RESENTMENT AND 
*UNFORGIVINNESS. 

IF YOU ALLOW THEM,THESE ARE WHAT THEY ARE CAPABLE OF:

*They Poisons once blissful marriage.
*They eats your very marriage root.
*Kills love overtime.
*Destroys intimacy times with your spouse.
*Makes you change your communication tones with your spouse by being harsh and violent.
*Blinds your eyes to every good deed done by your spouse.
*Disarmed your act of appreciation.
*They create many fresh wounds in your heart.

OFFENSES MUST COME

  Since both of you have differences,it is likely and very common that you will step on each other from time to time.But the mastery in the handling of such cases will be your victory. When issue comes up, always ask yourself this one single question, which way can I handle this matter so I can get the best outcome? When you spend sometime to ponder on this, chances are you will likely delay taking the emotional route,stay action on acting rashly or responding foolishly.

WISDOM AND MATURITY

  Wisdom is always the right application of knowledge. Putting the positive and the right things you have learnt and known thrughout your lives journey into proper application. If there's a way your marriage can be destroyed, there are more ways it can be saved. A response during provocation is not always the best, note,when provoked, delay response and action. Do not return fire for fire, always bring an extinguisher against the fire, sprinkle sweetness in the midst of bitter taste.If you go by thses rule you will always be the winner.

FORGIVENNESS

  Since you can not do without offending each other, then forgivenness is the answer. Forgivenness is difficult to a natural man/woman, that is why you need GRACE OF FORGIVENNESS to forgive and forget.Sincere forgivenness of your spouse will give Love a solid foundation to thrive continually in your marriage.
Invite Jesus in. (He is grace personified) The one who forgives and forget.He will come and help you.
He cares.

  If you have felt offended in a very sick union, there's need for repair. Receive grace to pick up your phone now and initiate the process of reconciliation by calling your spouse. Do it now!

May your marriage be a blissful one.
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GOD'S ORIGINAL PLAN FOR YOUR HOME

A BLISSFUL UNION WAS IN HIS MIND

  One day I was at a construction site observing how the work was going.I noticed that it was going on smoothly without any hitch and every one was playing his part.I return to that site in about three month time,to my surprise,a find edifice was emerging.

MY OBSERVATIONS:


*Every one kept to the rule
*There was no quarrels at site.
*Every one played his/her assigned role.
*The one complement the other to achieve one single goal.
*I saw oneness of purpose.
*Singleness of mind and 
*Unity of faith.

 DIVORCE, NEVER THE  BEST OPTION. 

  If you can deploy all these to your marriage construction, with the husband and wife ensuring that their roles are strictly adheres to.You will defintely complete a fine edifice of your marriage structure.
It is possible,you can have God's original plan of a blissful marital home. I believe it,and many are already enjoying it.Yours cannot be an exception.

DIVORCE, NEVER THE  BEST OPTION. 


Pick up your role below and ensure it is done to the best of your ability and for the success of your marriage project.

MAY THE PEACE,JOY AND HAPPINESS OF THE LORD REIGN SUPREME IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
AMEN.

AN ENEMY YOU MUST IMMEDIATELY TAKE DOWN TO SAVE YOUR HOME

YOUR TEMPER AND YOUR HOME

  I met a family in a rage on my visit to their home.Husband was threatening thunder and brimstones,just because a utensil was placed where it was not suppose to be.The wife was also returning fire for fire,and they were determined to bring down the roof of their marital home,without counting the cost.And I simply said,if this utensil is the problem,let me return it to it usual position so that the fire can go down.

''He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.''Proverbs 16:32

'' Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.''Eccl.7:9 

  I define Anger as a momentary demonstration of insanity,or short time madness.

  One through anger can set his/her marital home that he/she has painstakingly built over the years on fire and regret afterwards.Anger is an enemy you must do all you can to eliminate before it destroys your marriage.Many marital homes has been set ablazed by the simple ignition of anger.

    With anger,a mother can forget her nine months experiences,and engages in raining curses on her child.The father will release dangerous words upon the lives of his kids.Through anger,a wife will call the husband all kinds of derogatory names,and slaughters him with dangerous words.
Anger will cause a man to forget all the sweet words and the beautiful names he used to call the wife during courtship and at the early stage of their marriage.Anger will charge his muscles and energise him to beat up his wife to stupor.

  Anger destroys your health and take your peace away.
Time will fail me to list the accomplishment of that dangerous enemy called mr anger.Let's talk more about the solution.

But for how long shall you continue like this?

  You were advise to visit Psychics,consult horoscope,undergo some practices,etc.But without solution.
There is a way out.............
  It is time to take that heart and temper of yours before your maker,for a circumcision.
He has done it for many,yours can not be an exception.

In an expression of anger,many sins are committed against the Lord God,and against the victim(s).

GENUINE REPENTANCE

'' If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.''1John 1:8-9

First,you must confess and ask God for forgiveness.
Ask Jesus to come into your life-this simple prayer,if sincerely prayed,is one of the most powerful prayer ever prayed.Because when Jesus truly comes into your life,He takes control and be in charge,as anger and every other oppressors leaves.

 HIS PROMISES TO YOU

 "Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean. Your filth will be washed away, and you will no longer worship idols. And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. And I will put my Spirit in you so that you will follow my decrees and be careful to obey my regulations.''Ezekiel 36:25-27
 New Living Translation. 

TRUE TEST OF A GENUINE REPENTANCE

''The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:''Roman 8:16 

'' Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.'' 2Corinthians 5:17

There will be a witness within you,that you are a child of God.And there will also be a change of liefstyle.

ASK  YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN FOR PARDON

MAKE  NECESSARY RESTITUTIONS TO YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN

  And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway. And when he had brought them into his house, he set meat before them, and rejoiced, believing in God with all his house.''Acts 16:33-34

Restitution is an act of making corrections of wrongs done to others,applying healings to injuries caused,making cofessions and restorations.

After his repentance,the philippian jailor had to take Paul and Silas to his house,washed their injuries and set meal before them.This was his act of restitution after they were ill treated.

LEED YOUR FAMILY BEFORE THE LORD IN PRAYERS

'' But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.''Galatians 5:22-25.
Any one who possesses those fruits of the Spirit has conquered  mr anger.

Pray into your life all the nine fruits of the Spirit found in that scripture.
Pray against the spirit of anger,violence and murder over your life and family.
Through the name of Jesus, reverse all your negative pronouncements against your spouse and children.
Pronounce God's blessings upon your spouse and children.
Speak positive things into the life of your spouse and that of your children.

The best cure for anger is a continous intake of the word of God.Make the holy bible your best friend.

Join the body of Christ in a true fellowship.



May God grant you victory over anger.Amen.



   

MARRYING A CHILD IN ADULT BODY

COPING WITH HELPING AND THE GROOMING PROCESS  

  After  the marriage ceremonies,you  immediately settle down for the business of building a one solid home.Marriage indeed is a building that must be meticulously and painstaking built to a very nice edifice.For a building to stand,various materials must be brought for it construction.The two and very important personalities that will supply the needed materials for the successful construction of that marriage are the husband and the wife.
  The first and the most important responsibility of the wife is to be ready to supply all the needed help in the bowls of humility and submission.While the husband responsibility is to ensure that the wife is well groomed (bridegroom) in the atmosphere of love,peace and patience.

 HUSBAND

MY WIFE BEHAVE LIKE A CHILD

  Of course,that is who she is.This is where your duty as the bride groom begins.If she is not a child in nature,your successful grooming of her,may never be possible.Therefore,she must be one for it to be possible.
Groom her in the following areas:
Appearance,
Communication,
Approach,
Comportment,
Purchase,
Home keeping,
Cooking,
Intimacy,etc.

  Patience is a virtue that you as a husband must not do without.It will take tenderness,gentleness,care and patience to accomplish your assignment as a bride groom.Each area she is deficient,is a call to duty on your part to supply the needed grooming.Many husband resort to complaining,this is an indication that they lack the knowledge about their primary responsibility.

TOGETHER FOREVER

  Dedicate the first few weeks/months after your marriage to doing things together,even cooking.This single act often time cements and seals the bond of love in your marriage.

BE A COACH AND A TRAINER

  Coaches bring the best out of those they train,and in their training ,they hold patience so dear to their heart.I have seen husbands that lacks tolerance and patience with their wives.But seems to tolerate so much out there.Replicate that at home.Be a trainer and train your wife.

WIFE:

TRAINED ON THE JOB

  Though,this is not possible,let's assume you know nothing,but having a willing and a ready mind to be trained on the job.Your ability to grab faster,make necessary changes,improve and making progress will be to your advantage and to the progress of your marriage.

 DELIVERED IN SUBMISSION

  Your assistance role must be wrapped and delivered in the bowl of submission.I have come across many wives who withholds respect and submission to their husbands,but rather act so nice,humble and respectful to other men out there.This is exactly what you should demonstrate to your husband at home.You must act like a trainee to make progress.

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TRAIN YOUR HUSBAND.

  Training and Teaching are two different things.You can (with love) teach your husband skills that you got and he wants to get too.It could be cooking,mathematics,information technology,etc.But it is not your duty to train your husband.Your submissive conduct and humility are sure charms that will never fail in winning your husband.They can even make your husband to seek freedom from characters and habits that you do not want in his life.Which attempt to train him,will never accomplished.Your husband may likely not be your best student under training.

SHIELD HIM FROM THE WOLVES OUT THERE

  Don't forget what I said earlier,your help and assistance must be always wrapped and delivered through the bowls of humility and submission.You are not to police your husband,nor trace him with suspicious moves.Through wisdom,protect your husband from the ladies of easy virtues.Visit him at work place,travel with and be around him.Give no communication gap and give no opportunity for the enemy to strike.

DENY HIM NOT

  You must not deny your husband that time of intimacy.Don't ever use it as an instrument of scores settlement.Let there be mutual understanding during abstinence seasons.Denying him will be your act of a gradual destruction of a once existing love.This will be your greatest undoing which will never amount to your credit.

SEEK COUNSEL

''where no counsel is,the people fall:but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.'' 
Proverbs 11:14

Seek counsel from a spirit filled ministers of God.

INVOLVE GOD

''Commit thy ways unto the Lord;trust also in Him;and He shall bring it to pass.''Psalm 37:5

  The greatest initiator of marriage is God,therefore,you must never side line Him in the day to day running of your marriage.You have nothing to loose,but much to gain when He is involved.Make Him the third personality in your marriage so that He can supply the other items that are lacking for the onward progress of that marriage.

May you enjoy God's manifold blessings in your maarriage.
     
  God bless you Richly.Amen.

A MUST FOR EVERY WIVES AND TO BE WIVES

 STEP BY STEP FOR YOUR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

''And the Lord God said,it is not good that man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him''Genesis 2:18

  Marriage was God's idea not man.You will get the best of marriage when it is done in God's way and His principles.Most marriages are in shambles today because of the refusal to operate under God's principles.
Your journey into marriage begins with a need and a desire which culminate into you talking with your heavenly father about it.You must have a relationship with the father through  Jesus Christ,very important.

TODAY'S CHOICE

  Many went into single motherhood as a result of no fault of their own.While others goes into single motherhood due to their inability to submit themselves to the principles that govern marriage.

MY ADVICE

  Searching for,knowing and having a personal relationship with the God that instituted marriage should be your first step before going into the marrige proper.Without laying this most important foundation,you may jump in and out of marriage.This is very common with the modern marriages of today.Or what we can call the celebrity marriages of today.

MENTAL PREPARATION

  Your mental and emotional preparation are also very important.There may be little changes in the character of the man you marry,before and after marriage.By the time these realities begin to set in,be prepared to handle them with wisdom as they come,never be taken unaware.
 

YOUR CHOICE

  If you are one of His daugthers,you must talk to your heavenly father about your desire,asking Him for guide in making the right choice.Your choice must be one of His sons who fears Him and walk in subjection to His instructions.He has guided many and He will guide you too.Your choice is very critical,ensure your choice is not based on physical attributes or material things.

YOUR PRIMARY ROLE AS A WIFE

''.......I will make him an help meet for him''

  Your first assignment is to be a helper to your husband.You must never leave this role for any body.when Adam was busy in the garden and he actually succeeded in keeping the garden.He needed somebody to organise his life and as well as managing the home front.
We are living in an age where women also pursue their own career,make sure your career do not replace your role and duty to your husband.Many marriages are at the verge of collapse,while others has been destroyed as a result of wives negleting their primary responsibility.I have seen marriages of career women that are only existing by name,just because the woman is pursuing her career without balancing it with her role as a wife.Never sacrifice your home and marriage for your career.

YOUR SUBMISSION TO YOUR HUSBAND IS A COMMAND FROM GOD

''Wives,submit yourselves unto your husbands,as unto the Lord.For thesband is the head of the wife,....''Eph.5:22.

''Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as it is fit in the Lord''.Colossians3:18.

''Likewise,ye wives,be in subjection to your own husband;.....''1peter 3:1

  Submission on your part is a command from God and it is very crucial to having God's complete blessing in your marriage.It builds a solid foundation for love to thrive,and godly husbands cherish and value submission.You must ensure submission is not lacking on your part.You must not use the world standard to govern your marriage.World standards and examples like''men and women were born equal,women liberation,independent women,women right,equal right,etc.should not be a yard stick for your marriage.Any wife that submit to her husband will always be the delight of such husband.In almost every genuine matters,your habit of submission will buy your husband over to your side.

DON'T BE CONFRONTATIONAL

  Do your best in ensuring that there's no argument between you and your husband.You can always with wisdom make your points,opinions and suggestions to your husband.Don't be confrontational,husbands hate women that are confrontational.Being confrontational kill love in that marriage.Submissive wives are godly wives and they are not confrontational women.

  YOU CAN'T GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE

  Submission to your husband will be difficult if you have not submitted your self to the Lord.You must have a personal relationship with the father by accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and saviour.He must have a total control of your life and you must worship him alone.By knowing Him and His principles for marriage,it shields and protects your marriage from societal norms and traditions.

''Through wisdom is an house builded;and by understanding it isestablished''.Proverbs 24:3.

  With wisdom,you can build a successful marriage.You must do every thing to have this ingredient.With it,you'll season your marriage,it is an ingredient you must not do without.Go in search for it,make some sacrifice to aquire it because you need it most.Search and dig it out from the holy book because there you can get enough.

MAKE AMENDS

   If you have not been submitting to your husband,it is time to repent and make amends.Tell God to forgive you for disobeying His instruction.The next thing is to approach your husband and tell him how sorry you are,and ask him for his forgiveness.Assures him of your readiness from henceforth to submit to him in all things.With this single act,you will bring so much healing into that marriage.

TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE TO LORD

  Always take your marriage to God in prayer,since every thing about marriage originated from Him.Ensure your husband joins you in your prayers.Your husband may not fear God,but by your submision,godly character and good conduct he will be won to the Lord.

May the Lord grant your desire to have a godly marriage.Amen.

May He also keep and preserve you in Him till He return. 

THE BAIT OF ADULTERY

YOUR GUARD AGAINST ADULTERY

Before grace:Leviticus 20:10

After grace: Matthew 5:27-28

  A part from the church,the second most marked unit by the enemy,is the home front.When the family unit that make up the church are troubled,the church will bear the brunt.If the issue has become a concern to the church,then,how about the fate of those who are outside the church?

It has become a norm and a common practice,well acceptabe out there.

ADULTERY

  An all time high,and high effective bait dropped before the unguarded soul for a catch by the enemy.If you have not set  up boundaries and raised your restrictions as a believer, you may be taken off guard.

THE INROADS

  Close colleagues and subordinates of the opposite sex are often the best bait used  by the enemy.Repeated closeness and emotional ties often times lead to this, if not checked.

WATCH OUT THOU CHRISTIAN : Prov.6:26 

  Watch out for such baits and personalities.If he or she always come around when there are no distractions.Note that person.

Check your heart....Matt.5:27-28; 2peter2:14

 

  The issue of lust must be dealt with,if you are to overcome adultery.If you notice lust within,kindly approach the foot of the cross for purging and sanctification.Sever most close and emotional ties and place an impregnable restrictions.

Take your heart before the cleanser,cry mightily before the Lord for a thorough purging until there's no accommodation for lust within.

ANNOUNCE YOUR ALLEGIANCE TO THE MASTER

   In every new contact you establish,announce whom you have pledge your allegiance to.Let this be visible in your words and actions.It won't be to your advantage to ever hide your allegiance to the Christ.

SHARE THE LIBERATED GOSPEL   

Roman 1:16

  Share the gospel of liberation,because it has a way of shielding ,defending and protecting you.Do this as often as you can.

May the Lord keep and preserve you for Himself.