RESTORING THE HONEY OF MARRIAGE
''And the Lord God said,it is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him.And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam,and he slept:and He took one of His ribs,and closed up the flesh instead thereof;And the rib,which the Lord God had taken from man,made He a woman,and brought her unto the man.And Adam said,this now the bone of my bones,and flesh of my flesh:she shall be called woman,because she was taken out of man.Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh''.Genesis 2:18,21-24
It was not man's idea but God's
The idea about marriage was from God.He instituted it,and still remain the originator and the moderator of marriage.Marriage as an institution ordained by God,has a governing principles.Or we can call it ''the principles of operation''.You may not get the best out of any gadget without adhering to it's principles of operation layed down by the manufacturer.
Steps to a beautiful and a blissful marital life
Knowing the institutor,
The world attempt to hijack the marriage institution from the Creator and gave it her own meaning has not help many who has done that outside His principles.With her definitions,principles and ways, she conducts her own marriages. Some times the world call it COHABITION and in another breath she call it SAME SEX marriage.etc.These and many other likes are not God's arrangement.
Going into any marriage union without knowing the one who make marriage,and without a ready mind to adheres to His principles is like joining an air craft that will soon crash after taking off.
Therefore,the first step you must take to have a successful marriage is to submit to the fatherhood of God,the institutor of marriage,in a sincere father,son relationship.And also having the willingness and readiness of heart to submit to the principles that govern marriage.
YOUR CHOICE
''Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above,and cometh down from the father of light,with whom is no variableness,neither shadow of turning''.James 1:17
Since it is only the Lord God that Knows the heart of any man,and every good and perfect gift is from Him alone.Therefore,you can sincerely trust and depend on Him for leading and guide.
If you are a true son of the heavenly father,you must as matter of importance pick one of His daughters as your partner.When the Almighty God becomes the father of both of you by submission, then,complying with His guiding priciples will never be a difficult task.
Note:
If your choice in marriage is one of the daughters of the land who do not have the Almighty as a father by submission,be ready never to complain when your father-inlaw come visiting.
Your duties and responsibilities
BE READY TO FACE THE REALITIES
Before marriage,your bride remain an Angel,spotless and without faults.During these times, she remain the best thing that has ever happened to you.Who so ever refuse to see her in this light may be having a total or partial blindness.Some months after marriage,it will done on you that she is flesh and blood but not an Angel,and has some flaws as every other human including you.Without wasting time,accept her and commence your primary duty of grooming your bride.
LOVE AND CARE
''Husbands ,love your wives.even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it;So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.He that loveth his wife loveth himself.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh;but nourisheth and cherisheth it,even as the Lord the church''. Ephesians 5:25,28,29.
''Husbands,love your wives,and be not bitter against them''.Colossians 3;19
Love and care must be in constant supply towards your wife.The Lord commanded it,and your wife deserves it as your own body.The subject of love in marriage is very essential and very key as one of the pillars through which the marriage structure stands.When once you willingly submitted to God's marriage governing principles,your wife will have no choice than to submit to your headship in that marriage.
RESPECT AND HONOR
''Likewise,ye husbands,dwell with them according to knowledge,giving honor unto the wife,as unto the weaker vessels,and as being heirs together of the grace of life;that your prayers be not hindered''.1peter 3:7
Many husbands make the mistake of speaking to their wives as they are talking to any of their children.Some disrespect and insult the wife in front of the children and even graduating to doing that before the public.If this is you,it is never late to immediately make corrections.Tell her,you are very sorry.....If you can do that now by approaching her,put a call through to her,send her an sms,etc you will be glad you did.You never can tell the amount of healing you will inject into your marriage.Just try it.
Show her some respect and honor her before all including the children.Some times she may need corrections and rebukes,let it be done in the private and should be well wrapped in love,honor and respect.
No woman enjoy public disrespect and insult.Honor your wife,honor your self.
CHERISH AND ADORE
''So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.He that loveth his wife loveth himself.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh;but nourisheth and cherisheth it,even as the Lord the church''.Ephesians 5:28,29
Anything you cherished and adored,you care and give more attension.Place a very high value on her.Not worship....but cherish and adore her daily.
PROTECT AND DEFEND
You must bring your expertise,bravery and maturity to bear when it comes to protecting and defending your wife from external aggression.Whether from within the extended family circle or without.
You must prove to her, not by lips service alone,but also by your actions that she is in a safe hand.
Be her shield and buckler.
THE GROOMER OF THE BRIDE
She is the bride and you are the bridegroom.Stop and take the Cillins concise dictionary to find out the meaning of the word GROOM.
Since marriage institution has no graduation ceremony,therefore,your duty is to have a perpetual grooming of your wife.Clean her up,polish and prepare her for her best, most especially in those areas you want her to measure up.Ensure you excell in this aspect for here lies the some total of your duties.
TIME
The best expression of Love and Care,Respect and honor,cherish and adore,protection and defend is in the time you spend with your wife.The amount of time you invest in your marriage goes along way in determining the value you place on her.Show me a husband who has invested enough time being with the wife and I will show you a husband who has almost won in all front in his marriage.
Your wife values the time you spend with her so much.
MAKE AMENDS
If you are found wanting in any of the above,it will cost you little or nothing to make amends.You will never be a coward by making apologies to you wife where necessary.This will builds and solidifiesyour marriage.With a warn embrace of a humble submission,make sicere promises to her.
Also,if have crossed the line of trust into infidelity,repent,ask her for pardon and sincerely promise never to do that again.Ensure you keep the promise.
GO BEFORE THE FATHER
''Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace,that we may obtain mrecy,and find grace to help in time of need''Hebrews 4:16
In that mode, take her with you before the heavenly father in humble submission,ask for His help,support, grace and guide.Give Him your promise of willing heart and a ready mind to submit to His principles.
When you and your partner,walking with the heavenly father in total submission to His principles,then a marriage full of a paradise expirience shall be yours.
May your marriage be a blessing and an example in deed.
''Finally,be ye all of one mind,having compassion one of another,love as brethren,be pitiful,be courteous''.1peter 3:8.
''Grace be with you all.Amen''. Hebbrews.13:25
A sweet and a heaven made marriage is very possible....
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