AN ENEMY YOU MUST IMMEDIATELY TAKE DOWN TO SAVE YOUR HOME

YOUR TEMPER AND YOUR HOME

  I met a family in a rage on my visit to their home.Husband was threatening thunder and brimstones,just because a utensil was placed where it was not suppose to be.The wife was also returning fire for fire,and they were determined to bring down the roof of their marital home,without counting the cost.And I simply said,if this utensil is the problem,let me return it to it usual position so that the fire can go down.

''He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.''Proverbs 16:32

'' Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.''Eccl.7:9 

  I define Anger as a momentary demonstration of insanity,or short time madness.

  One through anger can set his/her marital home that he/she has painstakingly built over the years on fire and regret afterwards.Anger is an enemy you must do all you can to eliminate before it destroys your marriage.Many marital homes has been set ablazed by the simple ignition of anger.

    With anger,a mother can forget her nine months experiences,and engages in raining curses on her child.The father will release dangerous words upon the lives of his kids.Through anger,a wife will call the husband all kinds of derogatory names,and slaughters him with dangerous words.
Anger will cause a man to forget all the sweet words and the beautiful names he used to call the wife during courtship and at the early stage of their marriage.Anger will charge his muscles and energise him to beat up his wife to stupor.

  Anger destroys your health and take your peace away.
Time will fail me to list the accomplishment of that dangerous enemy called mr anger.Let's talk more about the solution.

But for how long shall you continue like this?

  You were advise to visit Psychics,consult horoscope,undergo some practices,etc.But without solution.
There is a way out.............
  It is time to take that heart and temper of yours before your maker,for a circumcision.
He has done it for many,yours can not be an exception.

In an expression of anger,many sins are committed against the Lord God,and against the victim(s).

GENUINE REPENTANCE

'' If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.''1John 1:8-9

First,you must confess and ask God for forgiveness.
Ask Jesus to come into your life-this simple prayer,if sincerely prayed,is one of the most powerful prayer ever prayed.Because when Jesus truly comes into your life,He takes control and be in charge,as anger and every other oppressors leaves.

 HIS PROMISES TO YOU

 "Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean. Your filth will be washed away, and you will no longer worship idols. And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. And I will put my Spirit in you so that you will follow my decrees and be careful to obey my regulations.''Ezekiel 36:25-27
 New Living Translation. 

TRUE TEST OF A GENUINE REPENTANCE

''The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:''Roman 8:16 

'' Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.'' 2Corinthians 5:17

There will be a witness within you,that you are a child of God.And there will also be a change of liefstyle.

ASK  YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN FOR PARDON

MAKE  NECESSARY RESTITUTIONS TO YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN

  And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway. And when he had brought them into his house, he set meat before them, and rejoiced, believing in God with all his house.''Acts 16:33-34

Restitution is an act of making corrections of wrongs done to others,applying healings to injuries caused,making cofessions and restorations.

After his repentance,the philippian jailor had to take Paul and Silas to his house,washed their injuries and set meal before them.This was his act of restitution after they were ill treated.

LEED YOUR FAMILY BEFORE THE LORD IN PRAYERS

'' But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.''Galatians 5:22-25.
Any one who possesses those fruits of the Spirit has conquered  mr anger.

Pray into your life all the nine fruits of the Spirit found in that scripture.
Pray against the spirit of anger,violence and murder over your life and family.
Through the name of Jesus, reverse all your negative pronouncements against your spouse and children.
Pronounce God's blessings upon your spouse and children.
Speak positive things into the life of your spouse and that of your children.

The best cure for anger is a continous intake of the word of God.Make the holy bible your best friend.

Join the body of Christ in a true fellowship.



May God grant you victory over anger.Amen.



   

MARRYING A CHILD IN ADULT BODY

COPING WITH HELPING AND THE GROOMING PROCESS  

  After  the marriage ceremonies,you  immediately settle down for the business of building a one solid home.Marriage indeed is a building that must be meticulously and painstaking built to a very nice edifice.For a building to stand,various materials must be brought for it construction.The two and very important personalities that will supply the needed materials for the successful construction of that marriage are the husband and the wife.
  The first and the most important responsibility of the wife is to be ready to supply all the needed help in the bowls of humility and submission.While the husband responsibility is to ensure that the wife is well groomed (bridegroom) in the atmosphere of love,peace and patience.

 HUSBAND

MY WIFE BEHAVE LIKE A CHILD

  Of course,that is who she is.This is where your duty as the bride groom begins.If she is not a child in nature,your successful grooming of her,may never be possible.Therefore,she must be one for it to be possible.
Groom her in the following areas:
Appearance,
Communication,
Approach,
Comportment,
Purchase,
Home keeping,
Cooking,
Intimacy,etc.

  Patience is a virtue that you as a husband must not do without.It will take tenderness,gentleness,care and patience to accomplish your assignment as a bride groom.Each area she is deficient,is a call to duty on your part to supply the needed grooming.Many husband resort to complaining,this is an indication that they lack the knowledge about their primary responsibility.

TOGETHER FOREVER

  Dedicate the first few weeks/months after your marriage to doing things together,even cooking.This single act often time cements and seals the bond of love in your marriage.

BE A COACH AND A TRAINER

  Coaches bring the best out of those they train,and in their training ,they hold patience so dear to their heart.I have seen husbands that lacks tolerance and patience with their wives.But seems to tolerate so much out there.Replicate that at home.Be a trainer and train your wife.

WIFE:

TRAINED ON THE JOB

  Though,this is not possible,let's assume you know nothing,but having a willing and a ready mind to be trained on the job.Your ability to grab faster,make necessary changes,improve and making progress will be to your advantage and to the progress of your marriage.

 DELIVERED IN SUBMISSION

  Your assistance role must be wrapped and delivered in the bowl of submission.I have come across many wives who withholds respect and submission to their husbands,but rather act so nice,humble and respectful to other men out there.This is exactly what you should demonstrate to your husband at home.You must act like a trainee to make progress.

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TRAIN YOUR HUSBAND.

  Training and Teaching are two different things.You can (with love) teach your husband skills that you got and he wants to get too.It could be cooking,mathematics,information technology,etc.But it is not your duty to train your husband.Your submissive conduct and humility are sure charms that will never fail in winning your husband.They can even make your husband to seek freedom from characters and habits that you do not want in his life.Which attempt to train him,will never accomplished.Your husband may likely not be your best student under training.

SHIELD HIM FROM THE WOLVES OUT THERE

  Don't forget what I said earlier,your help and assistance must be always wrapped and delivered through the bowls of humility and submission.You are not to police your husband,nor trace him with suspicious moves.Through wisdom,protect your husband from the ladies of easy virtues.Visit him at work place,travel with and be around him.Give no communication gap and give no opportunity for the enemy to strike.

DENY HIM NOT

  You must not deny your husband that time of intimacy.Don't ever use it as an instrument of scores settlement.Let there be mutual understanding during abstinence seasons.Denying him will be your act of a gradual destruction of a once existing love.This will be your greatest undoing which will never amount to your credit.

SEEK COUNSEL

''where no counsel is,the people fall:but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.'' 
Proverbs 11:14

Seek counsel from a spirit filled ministers of God.

INVOLVE GOD

''Commit thy ways unto the Lord;trust also in Him;and He shall bring it to pass.''Psalm 37:5

  The greatest initiator of marriage is God,therefore,you must never side line Him in the day to day running of your marriage.You have nothing to loose,but much to gain when He is involved.Make Him the third personality in your marriage so that He can supply the other items that are lacking for the onward progress of that marriage.

May you enjoy God's manifold blessings in your maarriage.
     
  God bless you Richly.Amen.

A MUST FOR EVERY WIVES AND TO BE WIVES

 STEP BY STEP FOR YOUR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

''And the Lord God said,it is not good that man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him''Genesis 2:18

  Marriage was God's idea not man.You will get the best of marriage when it is done in God's way and His principles.Most marriages are in shambles today because of the refusal to operate under God's principles.
Your journey into marriage begins with a need and a desire which culminate into you talking with your heavenly father about it.You must have a relationship with the father through  Jesus Christ,very important.

TODAY'S CHOICE

  Many went into single motherhood as a result of no fault of their own.While others goes into single motherhood due to their inability to submit themselves to the principles that govern marriage.

MY ADVICE

  Searching for,knowing and having a personal relationship with the God that instituted marriage should be your first step before going into the marrige proper.Without laying this most important foundation,you may jump in and out of marriage.This is very common with the modern marriages of today.Or what we can call the celebrity marriages of today.

MENTAL PREPARATION

  Your mental and emotional preparation are also very important.There may be little changes in the character of the man you marry,before and after marriage.By the time these realities begin to set in,be prepared to handle them with wisdom as they come,never be taken unaware.
 

YOUR CHOICE

  If you are one of His daugthers,you must talk to your heavenly father about your desire,asking Him for guide in making the right choice.Your choice must be one of His sons who fears Him and walk in subjection to His instructions.He has guided many and He will guide you too.Your choice is very critical,ensure your choice is not based on physical attributes or material things.

YOUR PRIMARY ROLE AS A WIFE

''.......I will make him an help meet for him''

  Your first assignment is to be a helper to your husband.You must never leave this role for any body.when Adam was busy in the garden and he actually succeeded in keeping the garden.He needed somebody to organise his life and as well as managing the home front.
We are living in an age where women also pursue their own career,make sure your career do not replace your role and duty to your husband.Many marriages are at the verge of collapse,while others has been destroyed as a result of wives negleting their primary responsibility.I have seen marriages of career women that are only existing by name,just because the woman is pursuing her career without balancing it with her role as a wife.Never sacrifice your home and marriage for your career.

YOUR SUBMISSION TO YOUR HUSBAND IS A COMMAND FROM GOD

''Wives,submit yourselves unto your husbands,as unto the Lord.For thesband is the head of the wife,....''Eph.5:22.

''Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as it is fit in the Lord''.Colossians3:18.

''Likewise,ye wives,be in subjection to your own husband;.....''1peter 3:1

  Submission on your part is a command from God and it is very crucial to having God's complete blessing in your marriage.It builds a solid foundation for love to thrive,and godly husbands cherish and value submission.You must ensure submission is not lacking on your part.You must not use the world standard to govern your marriage.World standards and examples like''men and women were born equal,women liberation,independent women,women right,equal right,etc.should not be a yard stick for your marriage.Any wife that submit to her husband will always be the delight of such husband.In almost every genuine matters,your habit of submission will buy your husband over to your side.

DON'T BE CONFRONTATIONAL

  Do your best in ensuring that there's no argument between you and your husband.You can always with wisdom make your points,opinions and suggestions to your husband.Don't be confrontational,husbands hate women that are confrontational.Being confrontational kill love in that marriage.Submissive wives are godly wives and they are not confrontational women.

  YOU CAN'T GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE

  Submission to your husband will be difficult if you have not submitted your self to the Lord.You must have a personal relationship with the father by accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and saviour.He must have a total control of your life and you must worship him alone.By knowing Him and His principles for marriage,it shields and protects your marriage from societal norms and traditions.

''Through wisdom is an house builded;and by understanding it isestablished''.Proverbs 24:3.

  With wisdom,you can build a successful marriage.You must do every thing to have this ingredient.With it,you'll season your marriage,it is an ingredient you must not do without.Go in search for it,make some sacrifice to aquire it because you need it most.Search and dig it out from the holy book because there you can get enough.

MAKE AMENDS

   If you have not been submitting to your husband,it is time to repent and make amends.Tell God to forgive you for disobeying His instruction.The next thing is to approach your husband and tell him how sorry you are,and ask him for his forgiveness.Assures him of your readiness from henceforth to submit to him in all things.With this single act,you will bring so much healing into that marriage.

TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE TO LORD

  Always take your marriage to God in prayer,since every thing about marriage originated from Him.Ensure your husband joins you in your prayers.Your husband may not fear God,but by your submision,godly character and good conduct he will be won to the Lord.

May the Lord grant your desire to have a godly marriage.Amen.

May He also keep and preserve you in Him till He return. 

THE BAIT OF ADULTERY

YOUR GUARD AGAINST ADULTERY

Before grace:Leviticus 20:10

After grace: Matthew 5:27-28

  A part from the church,the second most marked unit by the enemy,is the home front.When the family unit that make up the church are troubled,the church will bear the brunt.If the issue has become a concern to the church,then,how about the fate of those who are outside the church?

It has become a norm and a common practice,well acceptabe out there.

ADULTERY

  An all time high,and high effective bait dropped before the unguarded soul for a catch by the enemy.If you have not set  up boundaries and raised your restrictions as a believer, you may be taken off guard.

THE INROADS

  Close colleagues and subordinates of the opposite sex are often the best bait used  by the enemy.Repeated closeness and emotional ties often times lead to this, if not checked.

WATCH OUT THOU CHRISTIAN : Prov.6:26 

  Watch out for such baits and personalities.If he or she always come around when there are no distractions.Note that person.

Check your heart....Matt.5:27-28; 2peter2:14

 

  The issue of lust must be dealt with,if you are to overcome adultery.If you notice lust within,kindly approach the foot of the cross for purging and sanctification.Sever most close and emotional ties and place an impregnable restrictions.

Take your heart before the cleanser,cry mightily before the Lord for a thorough purging until there's no accommodation for lust within.

ANNOUNCE YOUR ALLEGIANCE TO THE MASTER

   In every new contact you establish,announce whom you have pledge your allegiance to.Let this be visible in your words and actions.It won't be to your advantage to ever hide your allegiance to the Christ.

SHARE THE LIBERATED GOSPEL   

Roman 1:16

  Share the gospel of liberation,because it has a way of shielding ,defending and protecting you.Do this as often as you can.

May the Lord keep and preserve you for Himself.   

A MUST,FOR EVERY HUSBAND AND INTENDING HUSBANDS

RESTORING THE HONEY OF MARRIAGE

                                                                 

''And the Lord God said,it is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him.And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam,and he slept:and He took one of His ribs,and closed up the flesh instead thereof;And the rib,which the Lord God had taken from man,made He a woman,and brought her unto the man.And Adam said,this now the bone of my bones,and flesh of my flesh:she shall be called woman,because she was taken out of man.Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh''.Genesis 2:18,21-24

                                                   It was not man's idea but God's

    The idea about marriage was from God.He instituted it,and still remain the originator and the moderator of marriage.Marriage as an institution ordained by God,has a governing principles.Or we can call it ''the principles of operation''.You may not get the best out of any gadget without adhering to it's principles of operation layed down by the manufacturer.

Steps to a beautiful and a blissful marital life

Knowing the institutor,

    The world attempt to hijack the marriage institution from the Creator and gave it her own meaning has not help many who has done that outside His principles.With her definitions,principles and ways, she conducts her own marriages. Some times the world call it COHABITION and in another breath she call it SAME SEX marriage.etc.These and many other likes are not God's arrangement.

    Going into any marriage union without knowing the one who make marriage,and without a ready mind to adheres to His principles is like joining an air craft that will soon crash after taking off.

Therefore,the first step you must take to have a successful marriage is to submit to the fatherhood of God,the institutor of marriage,in a sincere father,son relationship.And also having the willingness and readiness of heart to submit to the principles that govern marriage.

YOUR CHOICE

 

''Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above,and cometh down from the father of light,with whom is no variableness,neither shadow of turning''.James 1:17

    Since it is only the Lord God that Knows the heart of any man,and every good and perfect gift is from Him alone.Therefore,you can sincerely trust and depend on Him for leading and guide.

If you are a true son of the heavenly father,you must as matter of importance pick one of His daughters as your partner.When the Almighty God becomes the father of both of you by submission, then,complying with His guiding priciples will never be a difficult task.

Note:

   If your choice in marriage is one of the daughters of the land who do not have the Almighty as a father by submission,be ready never to complain when your father-inlaw come visiting.

Your duties and responsibilities

BE READY TO FACE THE REALITIES 

    Before marriage,your bride remain an Angel,spotless and without faults.During these times, she remain the best thing that has ever happened to you.Who so ever refuse to see her in this light may be having a total or partial blindness.Some months after marriage,it will done on you that she is flesh and blood but not an Angel,and has some flaws as every other human including you.Without wasting time,accept her and commence your primary duty of grooming your bride.
   

LOVE AND CARE

''Husbands ,love your wives.even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it;So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.He that loveth his wife loveth himself.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh;but nourisheth and cherisheth it,even as the Lord the church''.     Ephesians 5:25,28,29.

''Husbands,love your wives,and be not bitter against them''.Colossians 3;19

   Love and care must be in constant supply towards your wife.The Lord commanded it,and your wife deserves it as your own body.The subject of love in marriage is very essential and very key as one of the pillars through which the marriage structure stands.When once you willingly submitted to God's marriage governing principles,your wife will have no choice than to submit to your headship in that marriage.

RESPECT AND HONOR 

''Likewise,ye husbands,dwell with them according to knowledge,giving honor unto the wife,as unto the weaker vessels,and as being heirs together of the grace of life;that your prayers be not hindered''.1peter 3:7

    Many husbands make the mistake of speaking to their wives as they are talking to any of their children.Some disrespect and insult the wife in front of the children and even graduating to doing that before the public.If this is you,it is never late to immediately make corrections.Tell her,you are very sorry.....If you can do that now by approaching her,put a call through to her,send her an sms,etc you will be glad you did.You never can tell the amount of healing you will inject into your marriage.Just try it.

     Show her some respect and honor her before all including the children.Some times she may need corrections and rebukes,let it be done in the private and should be well wrapped in love,honor and respect.

    No woman enjoy public disrespect and insult.Honor your wife,honor your self.

CHERISH AND ADORE

''So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.He that loveth his wife loveth himself.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh;but nourisheth and cherisheth it,even as the Lord the church''.Ephesians 5:28,29

   Anything you cherished and adored,you care and give more attension.Place a very high value on her.Not worship....but cherish and adore her daily.

PROTECT AND DEFEND

  You must bring your expertise,bravery and maturity to bear when it comes to protecting and defending your wife from external aggression.Whether from within the extended family circle or without.

You must prove to her, not by lips service alone,but also by your actions that she is in a safe hand.

  Be her shield and buckler. 

THE GROOMER OF THE BRIDE

    She is the bride and you are the bridegroom.Stop and take the Cillins concise dictionary to find out the meaning of the word GROOM.

Since marriage institution has no graduation ceremony,therefore,your duty is to have a perpetual grooming of your wife.Clean her up,polish and prepare her for her best, most especially in those areas you want her to measure up.Ensure you excell in this aspect for here lies the some total of your duties.

TIME

    The best expression of Love and Care,Respect and honor,cherish and adore,protection and defend is in the time you spend with your wife.The amount of time you invest in your marriage goes along way in determining the value you place on her.Show me a husband who has invested enough time being with the wife and I will show you a husband who has almost won in all front in his marriage.

Your wife values the time you spend with her so much.

MAKE AMENDS

   If you are found wanting in any of the above,it will cost you little or nothing to make amends.You will never be a coward by making apologies to you wife where necessary.This will builds and solidifiesyour marriage.With a warn embrace of a humble submission,make sicere promises to her.

Also,if have crossed the line of trust into infidelity,repent,ask her for pardon and sincerely promise never to do that again.Ensure you keep the promise.

GO BEFORE THE FATHER

''Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace,that we may obtain mrecy,and find grace to help in time of need''Hebrews 4:16

  In that mode, take her with you before the heavenly father in humble submission,ask for His help,support, grace and guide.Give Him your promise of willing heart and a ready mind to submit to His principles.

When you and your partner,walking with the heavenly father in total submission to His principles,then a marriage full of a paradise expirience shall be yours.

May your marriage be a blessing and an example in deed.
    

''Finally,be ye all of one mind,having compassion one of another,love as brethren,be pitiful,be courteous''.1peter 3:8.

                                        ''Grace be with you all.Amen''. Hebbrews.13:25