STEP BY STEP FOR YOUR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
''And the Lord God said,it is not good that man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him''Genesis 2:18
Marriage was God's idea not man.You will get the best of marriage when it is done in God's way and His principles.Most marriages are in shambles today because of the refusal to operate under God's principles.
Your journey into marriage begins with a need and a desire which culminate into you talking with your heavenly father about it.You must have a relationship with the father through Jesus Christ,very important.
TODAY'S CHOICE
Many went into single motherhood as a result of no fault of their own.While others goes into single motherhood due to their inability to submit themselves to the principles that govern marriage.
MY ADVICE
Searching for,knowing and having a personal relationship with the God that instituted marriage should be your first step before going into the marrige proper.Without laying this most important foundation,you may jump in and out of marriage.This is very common with the modern marriages of today.Or what we can call the celebrity marriages of today.
MENTAL PREPARATION
Your mental and emotional preparation are also very important.There may be little changes in the character of the man you marry,before and after marriage.By the time these realities begin to set in,be prepared to handle them with wisdom as they come,never be taken unaware.
YOUR CHOICE
If you are one of His daugthers,you must talk to your heavenly father about your desire,asking Him for guide in making the right choice.Your choice must be one of His sons who fears Him and walk in subjection to His instructions.He has guided many and He will guide you too.Your choice is very critical,ensure your choice is not based on physical attributes or material things.
YOUR PRIMARY ROLE AS A WIFE
''.......I will make him an help meet for him''
Your first assignment is to be a helper to your husband.You must never leave this role for any body.when Adam was busy in the garden and he actually succeeded in keeping the garden.He needed somebody to organise his life and as well as managing the home front.
We are living in an age where women also pursue their own career,make sure your career do not replace your role and duty to your husband.Many marriages are at the verge of collapse,while others has been destroyed as a result of wives negleting their primary responsibility.I have seen marriages of career women that are only existing by name,just because the woman is pursuing her career without balancing it with her role as a wife.Never sacrifice your home and marriage for your career.
YOUR SUBMISSION TO YOUR HUSBAND IS A COMMAND FROM GOD
''Wives,submit yourselves unto your husbands,as unto the Lord.For thesband is the head of the wife,....''Eph.5:22.
''Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as it is fit in the Lord''.Colossians3:18.
''Likewise,ye wives,be in subjection to your own husband;.....''1peter 3:1
Submission on your part is a command from God and it is very crucial to having God's complete blessing in your marriage.It builds a solid foundation for love to thrive,and godly husbands cherish and value submission.You must ensure submission is not lacking on your part.You must not use the world standard to govern your marriage.World standards and examples like''men and women were born equal,women liberation,independent women,women right,equal right,etc.should not be a yard stick for your marriage.Any wife that submit to her husband will always be the delight of such husband.In almost every genuine matters,your habit of submission will buy your husband over to your side.
DON'T BE CONFRONTATIONAL
Do your best in ensuring that there's no argument between you and your husband.You can always with wisdom make your points,opinions and suggestions to your husband.Don't be confrontational,husbands hate women that are confrontational.Being confrontational kill love in that marriage.Submissive wives are godly wives and they are not confrontational women.
YOU CAN'T GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE
Submission to your husband will be difficult if you have not submitted your self to the Lord.You must have a personal relationship with the father by accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and saviour.He must have a total control of your life and you must worship him alone.By knowing Him and His principles for marriage,it shields and protects your marriage from societal norms and traditions.
''Through wisdom is an house builded;and by understanding it isestablished''.Proverbs 24:3.
With wisdom,you can build a successful marriage.You must do every thing to have this ingredient.With it,you'll season your marriage,it is an ingredient you must not do without.Go in search for it,make some sacrifice to aquire it because you need it most.Search and dig it out from the holy book because there you can get enough.
MAKE AMENDS
If you have not been submitting to your husband,it is time to repent and make amends.Tell God to forgive you for disobeying His instruction.The next thing is to approach your husband and tell him how sorry you are,and ask him for his forgiveness.Assures him of your readiness from henceforth to submit to him in all things.With this single act,you will bring so much healing into that marriage.
TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE TO LORD
Always take your marriage to God in prayer,since every thing about marriage originated from Him.Ensure your husband joins you in your prayers.Your husband may not fear God,but by your submision,godly character and good conduct he will be won to the Lord.
May the Lord grant your desire to have a godly marriage.Amen.
May He also keep and preserve you in Him till He return.
Marriage was actually meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured.
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