MARRYING A CHILD IN ADULT BODY

COPING WITH HELPING AND THE GROOMING PROCESS  

  After  the marriage ceremonies,you  immediately settle down for the business of building a one solid home.Marriage indeed is a building that must be meticulously and painstaking built to a very nice edifice.For a building to stand,various materials must be brought for it construction.The two and very important personalities that will supply the needed materials for the successful construction of that marriage are the husband and the wife.
  The first and the most important responsibility of the wife is to be ready to supply all the needed help in the bowls of humility and submission.While the husband responsibility is to ensure that the wife is well groomed (bridegroom) in the atmosphere of love,peace and patience.

 HUSBAND

MY WIFE BEHAVE LIKE A CHILD

  Of course,that is who she is.This is where your duty as the bride groom begins.If she is not a child in nature,your successful grooming of her,may never be possible.Therefore,she must be one for it to be possible.
Groom her in the following areas:
Appearance,
Communication,
Approach,
Comportment,
Purchase,
Home keeping,
Cooking,
Intimacy,etc.

  Patience is a virtue that you as a husband must not do without.It will take tenderness,gentleness,care and patience to accomplish your assignment as a bride groom.Each area she is deficient,is a call to duty on your part to supply the needed grooming.Many husband resort to complaining,this is an indication that they lack the knowledge about their primary responsibility.

TOGETHER FOREVER

  Dedicate the first few weeks/months after your marriage to doing things together,even cooking.This single act often time cements and seals the bond of love in your marriage.

BE A COACH AND A TRAINER

  Coaches bring the best out of those they train,and in their training ,they hold patience so dear to their heart.I have seen husbands that lacks tolerance and patience with their wives.But seems to tolerate so much out there.Replicate that at home.Be a trainer and train your wife.

WIFE:

TRAINED ON THE JOB

  Though,this is not possible,let's assume you know nothing,but having a willing and a ready mind to be trained on the job.Your ability to grab faster,make necessary changes,improve and making progress will be to your advantage and to the progress of your marriage.

 DELIVERED IN SUBMISSION

  Your assistance role must be wrapped and delivered in the bowl of submission.I have come across many wives who withholds respect and submission to their husbands,but rather act so nice,humble and respectful to other men out there.This is exactly what you should demonstrate to your husband at home.You must act like a trainee to make progress.

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TRAIN YOUR HUSBAND.

  Training and Teaching are two different things.You can (with love) teach your husband skills that you got and he wants to get too.It could be cooking,mathematics,information technology,etc.But it is not your duty to train your husband.Your submissive conduct and humility are sure charms that will never fail in winning your husband.They can even make your husband to seek freedom from characters and habits that you do not want in his life.Which attempt to train him,will never accomplished.Your husband may likely not be your best student under training.

SHIELD HIM FROM THE WOLVES OUT THERE

  Don't forget what I said earlier,your help and assistance must be always wrapped and delivered through the bowls of humility and submission.You are not to police your husband,nor trace him with suspicious moves.Through wisdom,protect your husband from the ladies of easy virtues.Visit him at work place,travel with and be around him.Give no communication gap and give no opportunity for the enemy to strike.

DENY HIM NOT

  You must not deny your husband that time of intimacy.Don't ever use it as an instrument of scores settlement.Let there be mutual understanding during abstinence seasons.Denying him will be your act of a gradual destruction of a once existing love.This will be your greatest undoing which will never amount to your credit.

SEEK COUNSEL

''where no counsel is,the people fall:but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.'' 
Proverbs 11:14

Seek counsel from a spirit filled ministers of God.

INVOLVE GOD

''Commit thy ways unto the Lord;trust also in Him;and He shall bring it to pass.''Psalm 37:5

  The greatest initiator of marriage is God,therefore,you must never side line Him in the day to day running of your marriage.You have nothing to loose,but much to gain when He is involved.Make Him the third personality in your marriage so that He can supply the other items that are lacking for the onward progress of that marriage.

May you enjoy God's manifold blessings in your maarriage.
     
  God bless you Richly.Amen.